• Friday, 15 September 2017

    TEENAGE PRESSURE TO DATE



    INTRODUCTION.
    Lets say for some people the pressure of teenage dating comes from their mind, and desire for warmth and affection."I need to be loved, cared for and appreciated. Mainly a teenager of a youth should not be considering dating simply because he or she feels pressured to do so. In the long run dating for any other reason to result to something serious because dating is a part of the process of selecting a marriage mate. Admittedly as we all may know marriage  is the last thing that comes to the mind of a youth who dates.
    To many dating is viewed as a mean of romantic entertainment, a fun activity. then to some it may mean a different thing, spending some time to someone you like of the opposite sex. Dating is also a legitimate way for two people to get to know each other. Now the question is ARE WE TO DATE?

    THE URGE.

    As we may know during this time you feel urges of sexual desire. There is nothing wrong with this, it is a part of maturity.
    But there in lies a big problem with teenage dating. Even so, a biological facts of life comes in to play.The more a teenager with a member of the opposite sex, the more sexual desire can grow.
    During teen age we just begin to learn how to control these sexual feelings.It the way human beings are made and often when teens engage in dating it might easily lead to the growth of other things in them. Until you older and more in control of your feelings, dating may simply be too much for you to handle. Unfortunately, many teenagers find this out the hard way. And this will always remains that dating often put teens under pressure to grant unwanted display of affection.
    When teenagers starts dating their immediate intentions will not be to kiss or show affection its just to enjoy the pleasure of ones company and talk, to enjoy being loved and to know how it feels. "with time as a result of the closeness, seating together, hands will be healed and kisses will start to flow.

    TEENAGERS OFTEN FEEL PRESSURED

    TO DATE OR PAIR OFF.


    WHY TEENAGE DATING IS BAD.

    Remember when we started dating we didn't even hold hands or kiss but little wonder, then, that dating often culminates in what sexual relations. A survey of several hundred teenagers found that 87 percent of the girls and 95 percent of the boys felt that sex was either "moderately important or very important" in dating. However, 65 percent of girls and 43 percent of boys admitted that there had time on a date when they had sexual contact even though they did not feel like it.
    Some let their display of affection stop just short of it. But what results when one is worked up emotionally and has no honorable outlet for such feelings? Guaranteed frustration. And those frustrations are not limited to sexual feelings.

    SO-CALLED PLATONIC RELATIONSHIP

    OFTEN ENDS IN HEARTBREAK.


    AM I READY?

    Young people do tend to "walk in the way of there heart". Yet so often those "ways", which seem to be such fun, end up bringing vexation and calamity.
    Vexation-is being deeply troubled or sorely distressed "calamity" donates a personal disaster. Both can make life miserable.
    Does this mean then, that dating itself is a source of vexation and calamity? No. But it can be, if you date for a wrong reason, or at a tender age.

    HOW CAN I DITCH HIM OR HER WITHOUT HURTING HER FEELINGS.

    ·        Get to know yourself.
    ·        Limit the time you spend together.
    ·        Learn to be poised around people.
    ·        Share your problem with your parents.
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    HOW TO GET READY BEFORE DATING.


     Have many types of friends-old and young,single and married,male and female-you learn to be around people, including those of the opposite sex, with much less pressure than on a date. Further more associate with married couples. You gain a more realistic view of marriage and relationship. Letter on you will be better prepared to select a good mate and fulfill your own role in the game of relationship
    PLEAD/CONCLUSION.
    Parents see dangers to which you are blind. After all they were young ones. They know what real problems can develop when two young people of the opposite sex start spending lots of time together So if your parents disapprove of your dating, do not rebel, likely they simply feel you should wait till you are older.